First of all, you don’t need a partner. Sex magic can be done solo. You can do it with other people, of course – this part was super badly phrased, I’m sorry, what I meant was I recommend you discuss with your partner(s) beforehand if you plan to engage in sex magic, so they can be consenting and aware, and okay with engaging in that sort of thing with you. You can still generate similar energy alone, however.
Sex magic is about channeling the energy generated during sex / orgasm / climax toward an intent. It’s like any other method of raising energy, just super intimate, and seen as a bit of a taboo tbh.
Seeing as I still haven’t personally practiced, just read a lot about it, I’m not sure if the orgasm is critical to sex magic or not. Everything seems to lean that way – keep your mind on your intent as well as you can, but obviously don’t like force it, just be aware why you’re doing what you’re doing; then at the moment before you’re about to go off, focus as hard as you can on what you want to happen, then when the orgasm happens, it’s supposed to, what are not childish words for this, release your intent-mingled energy out into the world so it can happen.
So, yeah, how would one engage in sex magic?
Step one: decide you want to do sex magic.
Obviously it isn’t required to practice magic or be a witch or magic user, it’s just one of many methods. Like, if you don’t wanna do it, that’s cool. But there also isn’t anything “baneful” or “evil” about sex magic. It’s not “bad,” just different.
You can do it alone, so it’s okay if you’re single. If you want to do this with someone, it would be really cool if you brought it up and asked if they’d be okay participating too. Because, you’re still engaging in a spell / ritual deal. It would be like making sure people are okay with doing certain things in bed too, right?
Step two: learn some safety stuff.
And yes, this seriously matters. You don’t want to hurt yourself, or any partner(s), during this. It’s supposed to be comfortable and pleasurable.
What do you want to have happen? What’s your end goal for the spell? It works the same way as doing a spell for any other purpose. Decide what you want to do.
And how are you gonna get there? Will it be alone? With a partner? With toys or without? Is there a certain way you like to, err, play, or do you want to experiment with other things?
I’m not gonna get into grisly details. However, I will say: don’t rush it, just enjoy the sensation. Build up as much energy as you can toward your intent by taking your time.
Holy shit, what would edging do in regards to sex magic? Lol.
Sorry. *ahem* Anyway.
Again, you don’t need to hardcore focus on what you want to have happen the entire time – just remember why you’re doing what you’re doing. Then, when you feel “close,” bring the intention forward, focus on it then, and then when you release, let your thoughts go with it.
OH. I almost forgot. The fluids themselves are super potent as well. So even if you can’t necessarily climax, but, you know… It can be put onto sigils to charge stuff. Yep.
And there you go. I hope that helps you. Yeah, fun stuff.
it’s really too late to Discourse, but… Although gay and lesbian people obviously can and do face a lot of danger and pain and risk for being who we are, I think a lot of us…. Don’t realise the unique pain of facing gatekeeping in the community? Although it’s not a privilege, our place in this community will always be a given. We won’t be subject to debates about whether we “really inherently belong here”.
When I identified as bi, I had my own experiences with gatekeeping. A lesbian in my family, one who I was willing and ready to look up to and see as an example in this new area of my life, sat me down and told me that she didn’t believe that bi people were real. That they were greedy. Confused. That bi women should commit to women completely, or just go back to men.
I was 14.
I had only been out for a few months.
It was devastating.
So when other people in the community call attention to it? When bi, pan, trans, nb, ace and aro people speak up about how awful it is to still be met with scrutiny, whether viscious or well-meaning? They’re hurting for a reason.
I’ve resolved to never make someone else in the community feel the way I did then, sitting at that kitchen table and feeling so confused and betrayed. I know I can do better.
Post edited bc I forgot to mention trans peeps who are also huge victims of this from too many groups of cis lg people
my friend told me that he thought I’d be the final girl in a horror movie and honestly I think the new trend should be complimenting your friends by telling them what tv trope they remind you of
green witch: freshly pressed flowers, walking through a field of wildflowers, talking to the trees, terrariums, plants sitting on the windowsill, forest sounds
kitchen witch: cookbooks, stirring tea with intent, lots and lots of jars, herbs and more herbs, the smells of baking, tea blends swirling in jars
storm witch: lightning crackling, calling up a storm, dancing in the rain, getting excited when you feel a storm coming, checking the weather activity
dream witch: sleepy eyes, soft blankets, meditating in the mornings to remember your dreams, reality checks, sleeping with crystals under your pillow
divination witch: wearing your pendulum as a necklace, sleeping with your tarot deck, shaky hands, too many tarot decks, meditating with your tools
sea witch: jars of seawater, walking barefooted on the sand, sitting on the beach at night, missing the seashore, balmy sea breeze, seashell collection
lunar witch: setting alarms for moon phases, talking to the moon, making moon water, getting ready for the next lunar eclipse, quiet moonlit nights
spirit witch: bonding with spirit companions, feeling the presences in a room, setting out offerings, seeing shadows out of the corner of your eyes, amethyst
fire witch: a whole bunch of scented candles, the smell of incense, cosy warmth, dancing flames, jars of ashes, almost burning the whole house down
crystal witch: keeping crystals in your pockets, crystals sitting on your windowsill under the moonlight, crystalline light reflections
water witch: way too many jars, running out in the middle of a storm to collect water, carrying a jar everywhere, shower cleansing and grounding rituals
tech witch: embedding sigils in code, stereoscopic light of a phone screen, ambient soundtracks, witchy phone apps, emoji spells, digital grimoires
music witch: jamming to your tracks over a spell, shufflemancy, headphones on earbuds in, charging tools with your speakers, playlist for every occasion
urban witch: dollar stores, carrying around their magickal tools, sigils for not missing the bus or train, finding that one witch book in local bookstores
glamour witch: sigils on the mirror, rose quartz in random places, makeup bags, looking fly, youtube channels on makeup, on-the-spot glamours
closeted witch: hiding grimoires in drawers, sigils for invisibility, waiting for everyone else to go out, performing spells behind locked doors at night
art witches: moon water in your paint cup, paint-stained fingers, charmed drawing tablet, colour corresponding your art supplies, local bookshops
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