awfulpigeon:

gurlukovich:

some trans masc people on here are legitimately like “lesbians using he/him or they/them pronouns invalidates our existence and makes people think we’re lesbians” and it’s like….. listen the same people who group lesbians and dfab trans masculine/trans men together don’t care about either lesbians or trans men!

it isn’t the fault of all lesbians (cis and trans lesbians) that transphobes exist and will invalidate your identity. it’s quite literally lesbophobic to claim that lesbians hold more of a risk to you than cishet people bc you’re viewing us as aggressors who are worse than our oppressors like. go outside and drink a long island iced tea

I see this happen all the time within the LGBT community.

“Nonbinary people with crazy haircuts give us a bad name.”

“Trans people with neopronouns make transphobes hate us.”

Or basically any version of “your identity is to blame for stereotypes, assumptions and hatred towards me.”

If your first reaction is to blame and LGBT person for expressing themselves that isn’t palatable to cishets instead of actually blaming, yknow, cishets, then you’ve already lost.

If someone uses he/him lesbians as an excuse to image set you then THEY are the problem. Don’t throw lesbians under the bus. That’s EXACTLY what transphobes want you to do.

Could I get a reading please? My question is: what do I need to work on? My initials are BMH. Thank you very much!

I pulled: Queen of clubs

Negative: Jealousy, selfishness, manipulation, untidy

Positive: Career minded, energetic, ambitious, passionate

I would suggest focusing on your ambitions but remember to approach it appropriately! Do not get so caught up that others around you end up hurt. 

Though I am an advocate that sometimes you have to be a little selfish in life to make yourself happy. 

dizzytarot:

This is the spread I used to interview my new deck. I based it off some other writings I’ve seen, so it isn’t the most original, but hopefully still useful. I hope you find it helpful when trying to understand more about a deck’s personality!

1. What’s your main characteristic?
This is what is fundamental about your deck, what will always be true about it.

2. What element do you align with?
Different decks align with different elements. It breaks down something like this:
Major Arcana = spirit (good at spiritual matters and introspection)
Wands = fire (potentially “sassy”, good at matters of passion)
Swords = air (detached, intellectual, and introspective)
Cups = water (good at matters of the heart and being kind)
Pentacles/Coins = earth (grounded, contemplative, good at real life stuff)
Furthermore, the card you draw might also hint at a characteristic. For ex., the eight of wands would show that your deck is good at future-telling, especially of what your dreams and passions will be

3. How do you see yourself?
This is really a personality question. It is less “honest” than the first position, because it is more subjective.

4. How do you see me?
This is how the deck currently views you. That is subject to change.

5. How do you view life?
This way you can tell if your deck is optimistic, pessimistic, or realistic.

6. What can you teach me?
The lessons your deck has to give.

7. What do you find easy?
The sorts of questions your deck excels at.

8. What do you struggle with?
The sorts of questions your deck finds more difficult to answer.

9. What do I need to know?
This could be general, or it could be what you need to know about the deck.

10. What do you want from me?
What the deck wants out of your relationship.

11. How can I improve our relationship?
What you can do to bond more with your deck.

12. Outcome of our relationship
Not so much a fixed outcome as a mutable one, one that shifts with how you approach the deck and use it.